You know your pots and pans have had it when your mother comes to visit you and decides to give you money labeled “for new cookware” for Christmas.
Yes, that’s what happened and yes, I’ve been on the prowl for them since. In fact, I got so enthusiastic about the whole idea, I’ve now bought two (2) new sets.
The first set, I bought at Bed, Bath and Beyond after an hour spent comparing this set and that. This set had ‘advanced’ non-stick coating. Actually looked nice. Had a nice heft—without feeling like I would develop carpal tunnel if I actually used it every night for a week. I liked it. I bought it. I brought it home.
That very night, a friend called and “commanded” that Dan and I come to dinner. “It’s a sales pitch,” she said, naming a brand. “But don’t feel like you have to buy a thing. It’ll be fun and relaxing. Good food. Great company and you won’t have to cook that night.” (The last sentence sealed the deal though I’d been leaning that way for the company anyway.) And, as Dan and I discussed on our way to the command appearance, “Since we just bought cookware, we’ve got a great excuse for not being interested.” We were feeling pretty smug.
Wouldn’t you know, we loved the cookware when the dealer was done preparing our meal. As promised, great food plus healthier, faster, easy clean up, save money on both on energy needed to cook the food and the food itself since there was less shrinkage and more nutrition left in, just by the cooking method. And since we’d already decided to take the first set of cookware back…
(Yeah, we had. I still liked most everything about it—it cooked evenly, had a nice feel, looked great, I even like the lids and handles–but the first time I cooked with it, I noticed something I should have noticed in the store, but didn’t until it was full of food. It had the bolts holding the handles on exposed on the inside of the pan. It was the ‘yuck’ factor. I got out a brush to clean around the bolts the first night I used it. With the way metal shrinks and expands with heat and cold, I knew there was no way I’d keep food out from beneath those bolts and pretty soon, build up and…YUCK. And, of course, the dealer mentioned the bolts and the problem with expansion and contraction and food beneath.)
Though I didn’t remember it until we arrived and heard the pitch, my mother had the same cookware and had since I was ten or eleven. Hers still looks as good as the new stuff he was showing us. So, wow, even without the lifetime warranty, it would last a lifetime. And this cookware had removable handles and a few updated features.
So yes, we bought the spectacular cookware. My husband was so impressed with it all, he didn’t even flinch when he heard the spectacular price.
And then I slept on it. Did I really want cookware that would last the rest of my life and most of my kids? Did I like to cook all that much? With the difference between what I would spend for the second set vs. the first set, I could fly to Florida and visit my friend and throw in a trip for both of us to New York, complete with a couple of Broadway shows. With the difference between the two sets, I could (practically) remodel my kitchen or avoid cooking altogether and go out to eat more often. With the difference, I could buy 15 more sets of pots and pans when they wear out—or even if I get tired of the originals.
Thank goodness for the ‘second thoughts,’ 3 day cancellation clauses.
So, yes, I cancelled/returned both sets. And I’m still looking. One of the few lessons I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older is that very few things in life are permanent. Very few decisions are absolutely final. I find I return more things if I’m not satisfied with them or they don’t do what I expect for my money. (My biggest problem is that I really don’t like to shop that much so that encourages me to spend a bit of time and try to make better choices to begin with.)
Life is about choices and priorities. Some we make are good. Some are not so good. And occasionally, some we have to live with. But most we can make and remake until we’re happy with them.